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Muslim child’s fear: ‘Is Trump going to exile us?’

Muslim child’s fear: ‘Is Trump going to exile us?’

By on March 3, 2016 in social issues
Really proud of this Trib Reporter covering this very important topic. I thank the Chicago Tribune for interviewing me and for shining a light on the reality that today’s right wing rhetoric is terrorizing Muslim children. Including my own. ~Yasmina
Chicago Tribune

“I have kids coming in asking, ‘Is Trump going to exile us?'” said Dr. Azmaira Maker, a San Diego psychologist.

Muslim children throughout the country are expressing fear amid fiery campaign rhetoric, say therapists and community leaders.

Maker said questions crop up everywhere, from her office to dinner parties. An eighth-grader wanted to change his name, she recalled, calling it “a terrorist name.” Another child, after seeing a campaign rally on television, asked if the family would be deported. Still others worry whether the election results will mean they can’t see relatives who live abroad, such as grandparents.

“It’s one thing as an adult. You hear all this hatred and maybe you can put it in context,” said Ibrahim Hooper, spokesman for the national Council On American-Islamic Relations. “But imagine what it’s doing to a young Muslim child.”

Bullying of Muslim children is not new — in a sobering CAIR study, nearly half of California students reported being bullied for their faith. But many said as the campaign of Republican candidate Trump grows, so do their sons’ and daughters’ questions. Trump has suggested banning Muslims from the country, and most recently stacked up wins on Super Tuesday.

Hooper cited several anti-Muslim incidents affecting youths — teenage girls in Buffalo getting hit by eggs while wearing hijabs, a man in St. Louis whothreatened to kill a family with four kids.

Those examples, he said, were on his mind just from the past few days.

“Every day American Muslims are hearing this and experiencing this, and that is obviously being translated into the experience of their children,” he said.

Compounding the difficulty of answering these adult-size questions is the fact that many parents also feel fear. A Super Tuesday poll by CAIR revealed Islamophobia is the No. 1 concern for Muslim voters.

“The level of fear and apprehension in the American Muslim community has never been higher,” Hooper said. “Even after 9/11, it wasn’t at this level.”

Then, he said, anti-Muslim sentiment seemed to stay in the fringes. Now, he said, anti-Muslim statements are blasted across headlines by public figures. This amplifies the sentiment, and stress.

As any parent knows, best efforts to shield children from harmful, hurtful things can fall short.

Even if moms and dads can monitor television or headlines, they can’t control chatter on the playground. Negative sentiments seep from recess into sleepless nights next to stuffed animals.

A recent paper in the Journal of the Student National Medical Association showed concern over a new generation of young Muslims “who have lived lives bathed with near chronic stress.”

Parents respond in different ways. Some limit television, or try to keep discussions to rooms beyond children’s ears.

Laith Saud, an Iraqi immigrant who grew up in Indiana during the Gulf War, teaches his daughter, who is 14, to exude confidence.

Her experience in a predominantly white, Protestant school has largely been positive, he said. Saud, who lives in Hyde Park and teaches Religious Studies at DePaul University, doesn’t guard her from headlines.

“We don’t try to evade this, but we don’t indulge in it either,” he said. “We tackle that challenge with confidence and a sense of entitlement that we belong here. We’re not asking anybody to belong. We do belong.”

For Muslim parents wrestling with direct questions such as “will we be deported?” a conversation steeped in facts and honesty is best, advised Maker, who has two sons.

“You want to explain in a very logical, factual way,” she said. She suggests something like, “There are people with different beliefs and values. This is part of our reality. This is part of our history.”

Buffer any conversation with a message of protection. For example, “My job as a parent is to keep you safe and happy. We will do whatever it takes to keep you safe. If it means that we have to do something different, we will do something different. We are empowered. We have choices.”

And any child bringing up these topics — whether Muslim or not — can benefit from adding context to blaring headlines, she said.

“It’s really important to not generalize,” Maker said. If the word “terrorism” comes up, she said, parents can add to the conversation, “These kids who you go to school with are good people. They are not terrorists.”

Yasmina Blackburn, whose children are 12 and 14, lives in a tolerant community in the Schaumburg area, she said. Still, someone once put a threatening letter in another family’s mailbox naming Muslim families, including theirs.

Recently, her daughter came home from school with a question she didn’t know how to answer: “Mom, what if Trump does win the presidency?”

First, she tried to gamely deflect. But her daughter persisted — would their family get kicked out of the country? — and she found herself at a rare loss for words.

“It’s that fear in her face,” she said. “It’s a tough situation.”

abowen@chicagotribune.com

Twitter @byalisonbowen

Copyright © 2016, Chicago Tribune
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